“Parents need to handle dating carefully so as not to set the child up for confusion and stress,” says Brooke.“Keep the dating separate and set up dates so they don’t meet them right away.” Brooke recommends only introducing a new love into your kids’ lives if you believe this person will be around for a long time: “Bringing too many people into and out of your child’s life can be confusing.She found that the young children she studied worried about how their parent’s dating process was going to affect them.Children between the ages 5 and 10 were more possessive of their mother than older children.
Talk with your son about how your dating makes him feel.
Be Truthful with Your Teens When you begin dating after divorce, it’s important to be honest and truthful with your teens.
“Explain to the kids that you are ready to move on and try and find love in your life,” says Melody Brooke, family therapist in Richardson, Texas.
As frustrating as this can be, your son's behavior is quite natural. If he's just gotten used to you and his father not being married, he might now fear that a stepparent will further complicate things and take up your time.
There's also the issue of territory — it's his house, you're his mom, this date is not his dad.