While we grow up thinking about love in black and white, they grow up inscrutably grey.As post 50s swell the ranks of the online dating market looking for love, this French flower metaphor takes on new luster that merits reflection.Biggest Shocker: The ways things work in courtship and the actual relationship are almost polar opposite.Chris Walker-Bush, an Australian who spent time teaching English in Korea, writes on his blog Aussie on the Road that it’s common to see Korean men carry around their girlfriend’s purse while out shopping, but that’s not likely to continue into marriage.While the man may be a bit docile and accommodating to the woman while dating, the woman slips into a traditional subservient role once the deal is closed.
I don’t know, because I was not a local, but a rare and exotic foreigner.I never thought that the cultural background of a dating prospect would make much of a difference when it came to relationships.However, since living in New York, I’ve had the opportunity to meet many different people from various backgrounds and it’s become clear that there are definite cultural norms specific to European men versus American men (especially New Yorkers).This is how the French are groomed to think about love from an early age: not in the absolutes of total love or utter rejection, but in nuances and a range of possibilities.It dawned on me at that moment that while we Americans are groomed to seek happy endings and closure, the French are more comfortable with emotional subtleties and ambiguity.Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.Perhaps this has to do with their upbringing, where it’s very normal for boys and girls to play and intermingle together. Since most Koreans are well into their university years when they start dating, there are love hotels where they can go to get some privacy, reports the blog Eat Your It’s typical for him to call a woman the first day he meets her and send endless text messages.Unfortunately, the teeming array of dateable humanity available online offers the promise that Mr.Right may be lingering right on the next page view. But the way they do it in different countries is very, very different. Dating Difference: Korean men tend to be pretty forward when they like someone. Right in one of these five countries with distinctive dating practices.Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.