I usually don’t write on the weekends, but this email from a regular reader made me change my mind – especially since it’s thematically relevant to my most recent post, as well as my new book that’s coming out in a few weeks: All right, Evan, so I’ve been following your blog and advice for quite awhile now and I sure learned a lot from it.You are right on most things, but I must say I was right on this one: Men care more about women who don’t care for them.I am pretty conservative (Naval Academy, makes me) and I tend to be that nice guy, well 4 months later she is calling me back blah blah blah. I think throughout highschool I had that nice guy image, LTRs very respectful but the girls were not turned on to it now its like as all these old flames are coming back. but trying to understand women is like trying to find the meaning of life you can try all you want but you will never find an answer.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... I didn’t know quite what it meant to be a bad boy (Did I have to kill someone? ), but I did know that I wasn’t one of them, and that worried me.Hearing that I might be at a disadvantage because of my niceness, I went so far as to consult some of my young, attractive female coworkers to find out the truth – not a tactic that I would recommend if you want genuinely accurate answers.Take my latest relationship, for instance, I started “duty dating” this man and eventually we went out for 8 months.For two months, I really wasn’t that into him, and for those two months he was very sweet to me, went out of his way to please me, compromised for the relationship and was very considerate of what was important to me.Women definitely seem attracted to the bad boy type, the type with tattoos and a Harley, the type that never wants to commit.Looking at this trend in attraction, it’s completely understandable why guys think about becoming bad boys in an attempt to spark the interest of women.I like it when women say, "well if I were a man I would" well honey your not a man your a woman, and you will never no what it is to be a man. (They want there cake and eat it to) Put your foot down.When children break something they turn to Mom and Dad to fix it, when a wife or girl friend breaks something they turn to there man. Remember, there are more of them, then there of us.The professor said he had conducted a study of engineers, salespeople and medical school students he classified as having "Giver" personalities and found they were consistently the worst performers in their field, Time reports.But surprisingly they were also the best performers.As our relationship evolved, I started falling in love with him, compromising, going out of my way to make him happy and even doing things that went against my beliefs.He, on the other hand, stopped putting any effort in the relationship.Asking these questions kept me ignorant of reality for years.