From my observations, the following dating challenges are common to most smart people. So whether you went (or should have gone) to the likes of Harvard, Yale, Princeton, MIT, Stanford, Columbia, Cornell, Swarthmore, Amherst, Dartmouth, Brown, Oxford, Cambridge, Berkeley, Penn, Caltech, Duke, read on: 1) Smart people spent more time on achievements than on relationships when growing up. And smart families are usually achievement-oriented. The upshot of all that achievement is that you get into a top college — congratulations!
"Bring your mind back from distraction." The destructive notion of Soulmates.
If he can’t handle your fabulousness, then phooey on him. FM: Can you rank the Ivies in terms of social awkwardness/inability to date normally? AB: My love life as a Harvard student was pretty much non-existent. AB: The first step is to reassure the students that “you can do this.” It’s not a big deal and it’s not difficult at all. FM: How did your parents react to your switch from medical school to dating? AB: For me, it’s just the gratification of seeing people apply the knowledge and get results...really, it’s about people getting back their personal power. FM: How can we nerds lead normal love lives and normal lives in general?
AB: The less other stuff there is to do in town, the more you’re going to just sit around and drink and party, so I’m going to say Princeton probably had more fun than we did, just by virtue of being in Princeton, New Jersey. This is the problem with campuses like Harvard and other very high-achieving, high-strung campuses—it’s that people become devalued. I mean, let’s face it: if you’re sitting there right now, you are proof-positive that every single one of your ancestors, going back to Australopithecus down to the very first amoeba, they got it on, at least once, successfully, with somebody, so it can’t be that tough. Anything that smacks of an absolute rule is not necessarily bound to serve you. FM: Feel free to decline answering this one: Do you have any personal dating horror stories that you would be willing to share? AB: In med school they had a class entitled “Clinical Hypnotherapy,” and being of a scientific bent I thought I’m going to go in there and heckle these cats because this is a whole bunch of nonsense. AB: I think my mom’s words were “My life has now ended.” But at the same time, she understands, and my dad has always been understanding. FM: You have a Master of Philosophy from Cambridge. AB: It’s mostly about courage, just being willing to put yourself out there and try a couple of new things..lots of people, hang out with them, go out on dates, go to all the formals, and be willing to extend yourself and put yourself out there and ask people out.
A great way to tell whether or not you're a good fit for the person you're with is to notice what kind of person you become when you're around the other person.
The Magic Question - What's important to you about that?