Accepting that not dating is a choice gives you the ability to take the next step.
If you are lonely, yet still choosing to not date, there is probably a GOOD reason for it.
Sadly, too often I hear from men who complain about their lack of a love life, but when I dig a little deeper by asking a few questions, I usually discover that the real reason these men don’t have a woman is that they don’t approach enough women or go out on enough dates.
Most of these men are really good guys who have good intentions when it comes to women.
The Divorced people, after having left their bad marriage for whatever reason, now have a New Dilemma…DATING!!! Ironically enough, in conversations I have had with many women from 25 to 55 they said that they are not looking for that type of guy anyway. Which is most likely the reason that they are divorced, because the last guy didn’t treat them well.
After not being in the dating scene for, on average, 15 to 20 years many people are Terrified to enter back into, what is now, completely foreign territory. It is no longer a situation where we must muster up the courage to face our fears of rejection head on and ask someone out on a date. We all know that we are no longer 25, packed full of testosterone with bulging muscles and an unrelenting sex drive. But the ability to hide behind Technology has created even more fear in the Newly Dating Environment. We will Tweet or send Instagram pics instead of calling.
I have really noticed in the last few years that the people who are in my social network basically fall into 3 categories: Divorced, Unhappily Still in 1st Marriage or Still Happily Married.Create the kind of life you would like to invite others into.The Savior taught, “I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly” (John ).Add to this a general societal fear of marriage, and young single adults often find themselves in a state of limbo, disengaged from developing significant relationships.Yet prophets continue to encourage young single adults to become more engaged in trying to become engaged—to realize the ideal of marriage and family.They’ve told me that much of their life has been spent alone or spent wallowing in self-pity after a woman broke up with them.Now that their life is slipping away and they are heading towards old age, they look back with a sick feeling of regret when they realize how much they missed out on with women.We can dismiss the Still Happily Married category based on the fact that they represent a very small percentage, at least of the people that I meet, who are Actually Happy in their 1st marriage…Still!!!The Unhappily Still in 1st Marriage folks are the people that have just not pulled the trigger yet for a number of possible reasons: Kids, Business, Finances, etc.How could she be so powerful as to choose to not date? The answer is probably "no." We want to suggest to you that if you aren't doing anything to seek out women and doing what it takes to succeed with them, then YOU are choosing to not date right now.We'll say it again: Accepting that you are choosing to not date is an empowering step. You are choosing to not do what it takes to meet them.Okay, dating is not always easy or fun, but it’s time to conquer your fears and make things happen for yourself. It’s time to conquer your dating and relationship fears and make things happen for yourself.Dating or being in a relationship should be a fun and positive experience, not one that makes you anxious just thinking about it.Week after week, month after month, he sees women that he’d love to meet, but never has the courage to follow through and make something happen.