Well, don’t book your flight yet, ladies, because there are some things you should keep in mind before falling for the first How do I know?
Two years ago, I spent the summer in Italy, and, like most single ladies on a three-month trip abroad, I thought I might meet a handsome Valentino or two in my travels.
Even in serious relationships some men will consider it perfectly normal to have mistresses; it’s a part of life as opposed to a crime and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.
He may even expect you to get a lover (and go mad with jealousy if you do).
It was early on a Sunday morning two years ago that I was telling a recent tale of woe and heartbreak to my mother. When you least expect it, your special star will come. Be patient — there are plenty of fish in the sea.” “But I only catch guppies! If you are single, and you are not managing your personal brand — “winking” at folks and setting up coffee dates — well then, you just don’t want it bad enough. So I was back in the game and going to meet Antonio* for dinner. Upon waking up that morning, I realized too late I was out of coffee.
She was making gravy and the comforting smell of onions and olive oil filled the house. Un-caffeinated and out of sorts, I smeared deodorant on my shirt (but didn’t find out until I was already on the bus).
I miei filled my childhood with hugs, Nutella and Totò Cutugno sing-a-longs in the car.
Sorry, that’s two sentences but how can you sum up Italian men in a few short words? I won’t stereotype too badly, but I feel on average Italian men are in love with the idea of being in love, so they’re very enthusiastic and very expressive when it comes to sharing feelings.If you’re alone this Valentine’s Day and you find yourself fantasizing of a love affair in the Mediterranean — don’t.While Italy is well known for its food, art, and scenery, it’s not exactly a secret that Italian men have a reputation for being some of the most romantic in the world.Turns out, my summer love was not as tall, dark, and handsome as I imagined– most days he more closely resembled a bottle of vino or a .Even my mother was convinced I would come home in three months with an Italian boyfriend in tow.Their soul-mating began with an unexpected meeting at a bus depot, was almost crushed by a plot twist you never saw coming, and journeyed across the Atlantic Ocean to Italia and back again, before finally reaching its happy ending in Boston. After a month-long sabbatical, I took my mom’s advice and got back into the online dating scene.It’s a beautiful, true love story that I promise to share soon. Whenever I told people this news in person, they almost all said “Good for you!So let’s see, there was the one whose name starts with a V, the one I never understood because my Italian was so awful, the one who took me to see the shores of Lake Bolsena at night, and the one taught me how to speak with a Tuscan accent. In short, while the experiences were both lovely and memorable, I’ve dated enough Italian men to know that I don’t want to date an Italian man.As I’ve come to grips with this complete lack of desire to have a (honeymoon) with someone of Italian descent, I wondered what expats who have dated (or married! So I asked 9 expats what it’s like to have a romance in one of the world’s arguably most romantic languages.As her chronically single last daughter, I can understand her disappointment when the only thing I brought home from Italy was an extra 5lbs around the hips and a statue of David keychain.What did I learn of the Italian male variety after spending three months living and working in the Umbrian countryside?On the flip side of the coin, many Italian men are as faithful as faithful can be.Again, like Casanova, they tend to give their all when with a woman.— but I did meet a fabulous person, who WAS honest…