Plus, it doesn’t help that most guys aren’t like Ryan Gosling in and hang from ferris wheels just to get a date.Then again, that might be a little extreme, but still, in most situations it seems like you either wait forever to make a move or it just fizzles out.On the physical and emotional levels, a guy who will not share just doesn’t want to go too deep.That can be fine for a fling, but it’s not worth making an emotional investment on your part.Even if someone starts off a bit shy, it will become obvious that they are into you.You know he or she is really into you when they initiate and let you know they want to see and spend time with you."A masochist like myself might ask a girl to spend more time with [him] if [he's] not enjoying her company," Santos says, but if he's willing to see things through to the end and extend the date past the "easy out" first location of a bar or coffee shop, there's a good sign he's making the time because he wants to see where things are going."Sometimes I get so excited during a first date I play my cards by suggesting other things we should do together," says Santos, though the timing may not be that immediate.

(Judges -40) Recognising someone is into you will be plain to see and should not require constant double checking with God and testing for signs.

The follow-up after a first date is rarely as simple as: "I like you, I had fun, let's get together again." First, there are layers of meaning in texts to unpack coupled with the actual timing: who reaches out first and how quickly does the other person respond? Either party can play coy because a) Despite attempts to put up an aloof front, though, there are a number a things men do to clue you in that they're interested.

Below, our guy expert Rich Santos spells out some of the motives and reasonings coming from the other end, to spare you the next-day mental math. While the act of simply seeing the date through to its end may seem like an obligation for most people, Santos indicates that there *are* exceptional dating disasters where he simply has to cut it short for his own sanity.

Deciding on how long to reply, what to say and “to emoji or not to emoji” are very real issues.

First and foremost though, you need to decipher his texts and understand what he’s trying to get out of this modern day form of communication.