We would find ways to continue spending time with each other without delving into the potentially disastrous territory of admitting that maybe, just there were some residual romantic feelings worth exploring. There can be weird hang-ups about your past relationship, concerned friends who don’t approve, and a myriad of other things that can lead to a sad sizzle-out of a potentially fantastic rekindled relationship.Months later, after one of these prolonged hang outs, we finally addressed the elephant in the room and started dating again. If you are considering seriously dating an ex, here are some things to keep in mind. Dating an ex has its perks: you know what side of the bed they prefer, their favorite pump up music, and all of the little quirks and habits that made you fall for them in the first place.You wrote about your confusion: are we doing the right thing by divorcing? But we’re so toxic together and sometimes love just ain’t enough. You learn he’s seeing other women, you see other men.
He was trying to be all sexy-like, chef-ing up his signature spaghetti and clams to the mellow strains of Coltrane, sipping red wine, and delivering beers and sliced cheese to me on the couch like some kind of fine dining maître d' who makes house calls.Lay these aside and remind yourself that you are starting fresh. I did a lot of things wrong in my marriage: worked too hard, cared too much, made too many sacrifices for my family. If you were too clingy, face your trust issues and allow her to have her space. If you were too aloof make an honest attempt to find interest in her work or hobbies and look her in the eye when she shares her thoughts with you. It's easy, because of your history, to jump to conclusions or have preconceived notions of what her motives are or what she's thinking. Sometime late last year, my ex and I worked up the nerve to become friends again.We had been broken up for two years and decided that we could definitely be friends.Let’s say you’ve spent the past year writing earnestly about your separation and eventual divorce from your husband. You vacillate between friendship and formality and a few slip-ups wherein you become lovers, but you eventually settle into a nice, friendly relationship with occasional flirting.You chronicled your tumultuous separation that eventually mellowed into a strange period wherein you hung out quite a bit in some kind of confused limbo. You learn he’s talking to other women, you talk to other men.Or maybe you just feel that way because divorce is the scariest thing you’ve ever experienced in your life. So you keep on keeping on because it wouldn’t be fair to suck your ex back into the drama you’ve spent the past year working so hard to overcome. As I write this tonight at my house he’s 25 miles down the road at his place with the kids because it’s his night. Your Facebook name, profile photo and other personal information you make public on Facebook (e.g., school, work, current city, age) will appear with your comment.You maintain positive communications, for the most part, and congratulate yourself on a divorce well done. We would meet once or twice a month for coffee or pho, catch each other up on the latest in each others’ lives, and in general, have a nice, easy-going time. After coffee or dinner, we would go over to each others’ house and watch a movie.And then show each other silly videos on You Tube…and then play each other our new favorite songs.While it's not the easiest decision, it can turn out quite well for both you and your ex. The worst thing you can do is jump into dating your e- wife if you have doubts. Ask yourself what you want for your personal future and go forward. Her accomplishments include being featured in Harlots' Sauce online magazine in January 2009, among others. She is currently a designer for an upscale floral design shop.