Q: It’s been almost four years since my divorce and I’ve been doing OK as a single mom. They would tell you that “age ain’t nothing but a number.” In fact, women dating and marrying younger men is a growing trend. Census Bureau figures from 2000 indicate that 12 percent of all marriages were between older women and younger men.But now I’ve met a really great guy and I think it may develop into something more than just dating. An AARP study in 2003 found that 34 percent of women over 40 had dated younger men; in a recent online survey, that figure rose to 67 percent. This phenomenon is increasing as career-oriented women become more financially secure, powerful and self-confident.He’s not a dating expert, nor an advice columnist, psychologist or relationship therapist.His expertise lies in the field of market research and he applies his scientific skills to educate women with all they need to know about men.The Pitfalls of Dating During Divorce - Find out why starting a new relationship while your divorce is pending can put you at a disadvantage. - If you are being pressured by friends and family to start dating, you need to figure out if you're really ready to date yet. Right - Get tips and insight on finding a good match the second time around.
They don’t have to depend on men to support them or give them social status, both of which expand their choices for a life partner.First, Beth reviewed the literature and research we had on file.With this in mind, I reviewed our interviews with men and women who were planning to marry and videos of two focus groups we had run with single men.But a couple weeks later, when some sexy 24-year-old was making me breakfast (wearing nothing but my t-shirt)…I realized how powerful these “Masculinity Moves” are.Think dating after a divorce puts you at a disadvantage?Younger women like to think they have this “rule” about refusing to date men who are 10 years older than them. You’ll hit the “reset” button in her brain…so all of her her “rules” will go right out the window (and so will her inhibitions)…I found this out the hard way: I’d start a conversation with a 20-something girl…she’d laugh at all my jokes…touch my arm every 30 seconds…bite her lip and lean into me… I didn’t believe it at first…at the time, the youngest woman I was sleeping with was 37…By Womans Dating after divorce is not quite the same as when you were young and carefree.Now you're probably a lot wiser about men (thanks to your marriage), you may have children that restrict your free time, and the club-scene may not be quite as inviting as when you were younger.When Beth, one of my better researchers, said that men who were averse to commitment were drawn to her like bees to honey, I gave her a copy of the summary report of my research on “why men marry.” The report showed that the primary reason a man asks one woman to marry and not another is that each woman treats him differently.After looking it over for about fifteen minutes, Beth returned the report to my desk and told me I was a male chauvinist. I was fond of Beth and trying to help her, so after I recovered, I asked her what made her think that.As a reward for her insight, I put her in charge of the project.My researchers approached this project the same way we had others.She said, “You reinforce the myth that the reason men don’t commit is that the women in their lives do something wrong. In most cases, it’s the man in a relationship who decides he isn’t ready or doesn’t want to get married, and he makes this decision without any help from the woman." After telling Beth that more than three hundred women had worked with me on the marriage research and not one had made the comment she just offered, I apologized. My interviews with single men had shown there were men who would not commit.