I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.So, welcome to Internet Dating Bootcamp, where I'll teach you how to trick unsuspecting users into thinking you’re actually cool and normal. You need to be you in your online dating profile, but the process of creating one is a good time to think about what kindergarten teachers call “being your best self at school.” If you’re attracted to Type-A go-getter types who get up at 6am to exercise, emphasize your similar love of hard work. Want someone who shares your taste for obscure French films? No, not everyone wants to date a carbon copy of themselves, but most of us want to be with someone with some overlapping interests.Ultimately, I'd like to be known for serving the most delicious peanut butter and jelly sandwiches on this side of the Mississippi... On my days off, you'll either find me playing hockey or belting out show-tunes with my 6-month-old nephew Jason.He says we should take our act on the road, but I think he needs to brush up on his harmonies first. And a message that seals the deal on the trifecta of feeling hopeless: "Wussup babe.Much of your destiny online depends on the quality of your online dating profile. It's time to stop getting passed over and start getting noticed. )." This new and improved statement provides bait for men who want to message you. Sometimes you like go out on a Friday night, but sometimes you are OK sitting in with a glass of wine and watching a movie, right?In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old school friends and career networking to ordering takeaways and finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away.So it only seems logical you would use the good old Internet for finding that special someone, too.
‘People have to imagine how they’ll fit into your life, so describing yourself as a “bookworm and internet addict” makes them feel they’d never see you,’ explains match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor.Keep your product’s major flaws out of the commercial.The obvious points of picking photos are to make them (1) flattering, and (2) accurate.‘Play up your love of anything sporty, outdoorsy or public – like concerts and exhibitions.’ Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive? Maybe this message will be different than all the others. Perhaps this email will finally be the one that doesn't have you contemplating the potential rise in serial killers populating your neighborhood. If this sounds familiar, don't get too down on your luck. You have the most beautiful brown eyes I ever seen. " You log off, wondering if online dating was ever a good idea to begin with.Here are a few examples of unique online dating profiles.If you wish to understand the concepts behind these examples, please read our tips for writing your online profile.Example 1: Light-Hearted and Silly I may not be a supermodel, but at least I smell nice... When I'm not busy saving the world or just ‘being awesome', I spend my time working as a bartender and part-time chef.Cooking is one of my greatest passions in life and I dream of one day starting my own restaurant.Instead, let's change the phrasing above to, "When I'm not out with my friends on a Friday night, I love curling up under the covers and watching a scary movie (any suggestions? Many men and women unintentionally use language that displays a lack of confidence.)." In this revised statement, I have turned a cliché into a statement that has personality, flirts with the reader, provides bait and discusses the type of movies that I am specifically into. For example, writing that "I really to meet a man who is smart, fun and handsome," doesn't sound terrible, but the word "hope" implies that you are the one chasing and "hoping" things will turn out OK.That photo where your skin looks all glowy and you can’t see your cankles? But the photo from 6 years, 25 pounds and two high-stress jobs ago?